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Developing A Sexual Relationship

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Developing and nurturing a fulfilling sexual relationship requires a knowledge of your limits, a lot of sensitivity, and a willingness to haggle like a Mesopotamian merchant

Love is a give-and-take. It’s the art of the compromise. Two hearts learning to beat as one. One hand washing the other, and all that.

But let’s say, just for the sake of argument, that one hand wants the other hand to get itself gussied up in a soiled gardening glove and spell out in sign language, “I’m a naughty, naughty, dirty hand,” over and over before the washing begins. Let’s say that hand No. 1 just can’t—or won’t—enjoy the mutual washing without that little drama. What’s hand No. 2 to do if the whole thing makes it feel a little, well, creepy?

Everybody goes through growth pains in their romantic relationships—it’s no news. Learning to navigate the quirks and obstacles in the successive strata on the way to your loved one’s secret and innermost heart takes fortitude and flexibility. And the more deeply buried that quirk—the more truly private—the greater the risk that you’re really going to have to recalibrate some of your own prejudices and expectations before making any further progress. After all, this quirk wasn’t stashed down in the sub-basement of your sweetie’s psyche by accident: Your mate wanted you to be fully engaged before letting you know that they were such aficionados of the dirty, dirty garden glove—or of pony play, exhibitionism, water sports, or the idea of tying you up with a length of laundry line, stuffing you in a steamer trunk for 40 minutes, then releasing you and forcing you to pantomime along to What’s Opera, Doc? while slapping your ass with a wisk broom.

So, the question is: Where do you draw the line, sexually? When do you admit that your dear, sweet, adorable, snugglebunny is a full-on freak? And how do you define acceptable freakiness? Or, conversely, how do you decide that your current partner is a repressed, judgmental, puritanical drip who will never understand, much less accommodate, your delight in full-face latex girl masks?

In picking and retaining your life partner (or night partner, as the case may be, you wanton slut), what are your dealbreakers? The things you won’t tolerate? The things you can’t live, or love, without?

We conducted a highly scientific and rigorous survey to get the answer to that very question. All names have been changed to protect the weird, though the cocktails are true-to-life.

There were, not surprisingly, the strictly physical requirements: Interestingly, though women, generally speaking, admitted to fewer exclusionary practices based solely on appearance, they were pretty staunch about dating men taller than they.

Miss Mojito reported that she had spent one short-lived relationship entirely in flats, and was not at all interested in repeating the experience. (A quick glance at online dating services confirmed that even the most open-minded “women seeking” almost without fail requested guys several inches taller than their own listed height.) We can only assume that Shorty must have made her laugh.

Guys, we’re sorry to report, were not so accepting, and easily rattled off a grocery list of dealbreakers of Seinfeldesque specificity.

Bottled Bud says, “Ankles, man. Gotta have slender ankles. That’s feminine, sexy. I couldn’t be with anyone with thick, nasty ankles.”

Paulaner Hefeweizen likes his women small all over, “like Audrey Hepburn.” Not content to simply loom over his date, he wants to dwarf her. “I like girls who are very, very petite. All of my girlfriends have been small. I was set up with a friend of a friend once and she was almost as tall as me; it was like dating somebody on the rugby team. I like delicate women.”

Getting a little more into the spirit of the invasive, prurient questioning, Knob Creek on the Rocks barks, “Odor. Personal aroma.” With surprising candor, Knob details the demise of an otherwise promising relationship because he just never became comfortable with the smell—even the “clean and showered” smell—of his girl in arousal. (There are reports that pheromones work in humans in much the same way they do in other animals; and that we are programmed to find attractive the smell of another person whose immune system is unlike our own, thereby promising a doubled or reinforced immune system for our offspring. By the same token, we may find repellent the natural smell of someone who would provide too narrow an immunity. So, it’s possible the guy’s not just an ass.)

But, of course, these are all inherent characteristics, things that couldn’t be changed even if the potential partner were willing to do so. What about less-biologically-coded stuff? Things that could in theory be negotiated?

Bottled Bud fesses up to really liking lingerie; Miss Mojito says she feels good in lingerie herself. A love match? Not likely. Further discussion at the prompting of Lady Chablis reveals that the parties really aren’t talking about the same thing.

“I think really classy lingerie is sexy,” says Chablis, “but not, like, Frederick’s of Hollywood stuff. You know, like the stewardess in crotchless panties, or something like that—yuck.”

Miss Mojito agrees avidly, “No, no. I mean something pretty. Like a floor-length sleeping gown, or a lace baby doll.”

Bottled Bud looks a little sheepish, admitting, “No, I mean trashy lingerie. Kinda slutty. I don’t want my girlfriend to dress like a tramp all the time, but at home, you know, it’s kinda hot.”

And what about behavioral stuff? Unsurprisingly, there’s a hesitance to reveal this kind of personal info, but once the ball starts rolling . . . .

Everybody likes the oral sex; and nobody is interested in scat. Or animals.

(This article will still have to go through a thorough process of peer review, but these seem pretty solid conclusions.)

Knob Creek is adamant: “Yeah, oral sex. Reciprocal oral sex. I definitely couldn’t do without it—in either direction. I mean, I want it; and I would think that a woman who didn’t had some hang-up that was going to come out in some other way later. I’d want her to be comfortable with that.”

There is a general murmur of consent, as if that’s a given.

Bottled Bud adds, “Same with masturbation.”

Again, nods all around, though the ladies reserve comment.

OK, fine, but what about the less-common stuff, the sex-issue-headline-making stuff? There’s a deadline to think about here, after all. What about BDSM? Role playing? Group sex and/or partner swapping? Cross-dressing? Bisexual experiences? What about anal sex? What about knife play?

Miss Mojito, Bottled Bud, Paulaner Hefeweizen, Knob Creek on the Rocks and Lady Chablis all look askance at House Cabernet, quizzing them rapidly over his notebook. All the aforementioned pleasures/perversions, in fact, bring conversation to a screeching halt.

We finally manage to cajole a unanimous “no” vote on anything involving pain, poop or preconsent. And the interspecies romances are right out.

Aside from those hard limits, though, it seems there’s a whole lot of gray area out there.

For the record, we’ve already ordered our copy of Getting to Yes.

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From an article by… John Rodat (Metroland)

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