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Hot Email Tips

Friday, January 28th, 2005

Hot Email Tips

So you’re an absolutely wonderful person. Congratulations! It’s time to convey that in writing.

Writing emails isn’t a rocket science, but if you keep the following nine email writing tips in mind, you’re bound to improve your chances of meeting the right person. And that’s the name of the game, guys and girls.


1… DON’T GET PERSONAL

People have a right to be worried about who they’re chatting with. You never know if someone is the crazed stalker type so asking details like what street they live on, places they frequent and where they work should be avoided in the beginning. Keep it general by asking questions like what area of the city they live in, what types of places they like to visit and what line of work they’re in. If they’re interested in being stalked, they’ll let you in on their address and which window you can throw rocks at to get their attention. Until that time, let them fill in the blanks. Always be a bit defensive at first.

2… ASK QUESTIONS

Great conversations require give and take. Asking people about themselves lets them know you’re interested and gives them something to write back about. Make sure you include there questions and your answers to them in your emails. Nothing worse than getting an email from someone with a whole bunch of answers, and you cant remember what your questions were.”

3… KEEP IT BRIEF

Most people don’t want to spend a lot of time on someone they don’t know and let’s face it, writing takes time. If you write a book, they may feel the need to write one back. Try and keep it to a few paragraphs and you’ll achieve better results and faster replies.

4… SPELLING

It can’t be said enough: make sure you spell check your email before sending it. It’s quick and easy to do and you’ll give a better impression than if it looks like you weren’t that interested in putting time into it.

5… NO FOUL LANGUAGE

There is a time and place for everything… but dirty words in emails to a prospective new friend is not one of them. Even the occasional bad word can be enough to put some people off the idea of furthering the relationship.

6… BE AWARE OF EARS DROPPERS

Everything you say in Emails can be read by a third party without your knowledge. So be careful what you say to people. Last thing you want is all your workmates finding out you like to dress up as a fairy on week-ends and stand on street corners.

7… MULTIPLE ADDRESS

This is especially important if you intend to join more than one Dating site. By having different email addresses you can easily keep tabs on which websites get you the most, and even more importantly the best email responses

8… USE ABBREVIATIONS

If you want to look cool, then use the message abbreviations that are listed in Chat Room Etiquette. There used by everyone these days on the Internet, especially chat rooms.

9… DON’T LET THEM HANG

You’re interested in them. They’re interested in you. Make sure you keep the flame alive by responding to emails promptly. A day or two in between should be the max. If you’re unable to write back because of certain circumstances, make sure to let them know!

The magic nine! Keep these in mind and you’ll appear to be the superstar we know you are

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Writing A Profile

Thursday, January 27th, 2005

Oh, I’m so sorry to hear that! You showed up for a date and they didn’t say anything the whole night? Not one interesting thing? That’s horrible! I guess you’re not going on a second date . . . Wait, you are? Are you nuts?

Writing A Profile

No, they’re probably not nuts. They’ve just been out with a supermodel. For the rest of us mere mortals who haven’t been blessed with a face or physique that’s been handed down from the gods, we face a far different challenge. We have to be interesting and entertaining so our dates will like us – and we need to do all this while trying to figure out who the person across the table is and if we want to go out a second time with them. If it sounds tricky, that’s because it is. And that’s exactly how you need to think when you’re writing your online personals profile.

Here’s your chance to get someone you’ve never met before really interested in who you are – and you should take it! People fall into two categories: those that read profiles and those that just look at pictures. Not everyone is a master wordsmith but, with a little thought and a bit of help, we guarantee you’ll have both the peepers and readers taking note!

You are the most interesting person on the face of the planet – the masses just don’t know it yet! This is your time to wow them with who you are, what crazy stuff you’ve done, what you’re into as far as style, lifestyle and romance are concerned and why they need to be sending you a message RIGHT NOW!

Here are some tips to keep in mind…

Sum peeple ar big phans ov profylez, but if they read them and they’re littered with spelling mistakes and grammatical errors, they could easily be tempted to flip on to the next one. If you don’t take the time to build the best profile, you’re saying something about who you are — and it’s probably not the best foot to be sticking forward! Make sure to spell check your work before you publish it online and get a friend to look it over, too. The extra set of eyes always helps and there’re many free resources to check your spelling and grammar available on the Internet. Use them and you’ll open the door to many more people – at least the ones that read!

Honesty is always the best policy so write about who you are, not what you think others might be looking for. If you write that you love adventure sports but you’ve never thrown yourself out of a plane at high altitude, bungee jumped off a tall bridge, kayaked down a dangerous river or scraped your knee pulling corners on a sports bike, you’ll be facing some tough questions from a person who has ‘been there and done that’ and contacted you because of it. Save yourself the trouble and write about the real you.

"If you complain in your profile, come across as angry, jaded or selfish, then you’ll turn more people off than you’ll turn on. Definately not a very good idea"

At all costs, stay positive! People easily pass a profile that has negative vibes. When you write your profile, make sure you’re in a good mood and thinking happy thoughts. If you complain in your profile, come across as angry, jaded or selfish, you’ll turn people off more than you’ll turn them on. I know I’ve said that you need to write about who you really are – and I realize you could be all of those things! Never lie, but it might be better to be focused on the brighter aspects of life just for now. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to keep the negativity to a minimum and you’re bound to get more positive results from your personals profile.

There are certain things that just need to be said – so say them. If you’re only looking for someone over six feet tall, someone who has the same religious beliefs or a person who must love mayonnaise on their fries (it’s really good!) then write it! Don’t be afraid to put it at the top of your profile. If it’s that important to you, make sure people read it. Don’t stick it at the end of your profile where people who haven’t read all the way through might skip it. Say what you have to say first off and you’ll ensure that you’re attracting the right kind of attention.

When you write, you’ll want to talk about your interests and accomplishments. We’re sure you have many, but try and avoid “the list.” Instead, take a few of the more interesting ones and expand on them. This will save you looking like you are your own favorite subject and help people get to know you through your writing.

It’s always better to show than tell. “I rock climb and wakeboard” is better that “I’m into adventure sports.” What’s even better than that is, “I was rock climbing in Montana up this face as the sun was setting. The rays on the rock made it glow with the most spectacular light. If we get a chance to chat, I’ll send you some pictures I snapped.” Show them your story through words and you’ll be leaps ahead of the competition.

Make sure to change your profile up from time to time. Your taste and interests may shift as well as your focus in life. Imagine retooling your profile is like a fresh coat of paint. Changing your picture regularly is integral to attracting the most attention, but profiles deserve a fresh face, too.

Keep these tips in mind and you’ll find the “right” emails in your inbox in no time at all.

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